He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour from the Lord. (Proverbs 18:22)
Prince Charming’s really do exist in this world. They are men who reflect our Prince Charming in heaven – Jesus Christ. As set-apart young women, our standards for earthly lovers must be calibrated to fit with the nature and character of our heavenly Lover. We must allow Him to train our eyes to see the beauty and strength of the internal life. We must learn to recognize and applaud integrity, selfless love, courage, compassion, and an intimate relationship with Christ. And when we do, we will be satisfied with nothing less than men who reflect the princely grace of our Jesus. We will recognize these men of God’s choosing because they will have been shaped by our Prince. They will be set apart for the Prince’s service, just as we are.
― Leslie Ludy, Authentic Beauty
The Ideal Wife:
1. The ideal woman is a woman who is virtuous
Verse 10 asks, “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies?” One translation renders it, “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.”
You can’t build a successful marriage on moral impurity. Let me tell you single fellows, looking for a wife, the girl who is just everybody’s girl, who is coarse and vulgar in her speech and actions, will not make a good wife, or mother. Habits formed before marriage, have a way of sticking after marriage. You can’t build a successful home on moral bankruptcy?
A woman may be beautiful woman outside, however, there must be a gentility inside, if the marriage is going to work. If a woman is not honest with herself, she will not be honest with others.
2. The ideal woman is a stabilizing influence in her home
Verse. 11, “The heart of her husband doeth safely trust in her,” or, “Her husband has full confidence in her.”
Her husband knows she will never let him down. In her quiet and efficient way, she gives him strength. She lets him know that he counts in the home. She makes him feel worthwhile, that she couldn’t get along without him. She sees the best in him. She refreshes him, morally, emotionally, physically and mentally and sends him out to his job feeling that he can put up with anything as long as he is loved and appreciated at home. She never lets him down.
3. The ideal woman is an energetic woman
Verses 12-15, “She will do him good and not evil [not harm] all the days of her life. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar, She riseth also while it is still dark, and provides food for her family.”
There isn’t a lazy bone in her. Someone has said, “Man works from morn to set of sun, but a woman’s work is never done.” A woman has to be chef, clothes’ designer, interior decorator, gardener, educationalist, counselor, budget director, sweetheart, mother, letter-writer and always ready for an outing with the family. She holds more cabinet posts than the Premier of France.
Read all 10 points by NetBible here
Message to the singles:
Singleness is not simply an awkward stopping place before being in a relationship or married. Appreciate the time God has sectioned off to not only prepare you for marriage but to serve Him wholeheartedly.
Sometimes as women we get caught up in the idea of being in love and married to the man of our dreams that we take our eyes off that which is truly important. God. We yearn for a relationship but fail to understand if we can’t submit to God who is perfect in all His ways how will you submit to a man who is less than perfect? We try and orchestrate it all ourselves and just like Sarah in the bible, ‘help God out’ and do it ourselves. God wants our whole hearts. Not some of it! Total, undivided devotion.
Ify Alexis Xx